I know this isn’t writing related, but it is heavy on my heart.
We’ve all been through hard times We’ve all watched friends go through hard times. And in those situations we have heard and said, “God won’t give you more than you can handle.”
Lies. Take a look at Christian history. Look at other countries in the present day Do you really think that being burned at the stake was less than what martyrs could handle? What about those Christians in countries where our faith is punishable by death? Is death less than you can handle? Do you think Elizabeth Eliot handled her husband being murdered, and then being called to share salvation with the culprits?
Let’s look at the verse from which this phrase is taken. “Therefor let anyone who thinks that he stand take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” I Corinthians 10:12, 13
So what will God make sure we can handle? Temptations. Trials (hardships) are not the same as temptations.
We are told to bear each others’ burdens. But when we essentially tell someone who is hurting to ‘suck it up,’ by informing them that God won’t give them more than they can handle, this is a cop out. All that says is, “I don’t know what to say, and I don’t have the time to help you carry this burden.” This one verse taken out of context undermines how we are supposed to be as believers.
The fact is we can’t handle things on our own. Trials in our live serve to drive us to God’s arms. Then He will give us what we need to go in life, or bring us home to Him. We will given more than we can handle, because it is then that we will depend of God.
So next time you are tempted to say this, or hear someone else say it, remember those who have lost children or are being tortured for their faith. When we see our brothers and sisters hurting, let’s help them instead of telling them to buck up.